The pillow configuration is easier to arrange. The nightstand situation is more baffling. Do they both just have the same phone charger, same books, same water bottle?
There was a post recently about how the couple doesn’t have their own cars. They just have two cars and they just take whichever one they want.
We own two cars; one is cheap and good for city driving and one is for highway driving. We use whichever is convenient and appropriate. I don’t commute; if I did, perhaps I’d feel more proprietary about “my” car.
This bed thing though. Crazy.
Everything modern uses USB C and they might be the sort of people who are on their phones before bed
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I don’t understand the question. I meant that they might not be reading books and such, so when they go to sleep they just put their phone to the charger on the side they happened to use that time and use the nightstand on that side.
The alternative is to be on their phones during bed. If they are the type of people who are on their phones before bed and not during bed then phone chargers have no bearing on which side of the bed the individuals choose to sleep on.
pillows are no easier to rearrange than books
don’t keep the phone next to the bed
bring your water bottle to the bedroom after filling it, and just put it next to the side you get in
one of the best things in my last shared bedroom was a bed headboard with integrated lighting for reading and a shelf for books and stuff
Gotta keep things spontaneous in the bedroom
Lol is this a young people thing? We each got our meds, my CPAP, her giant water bottle, etc all set up. The heck if all that is getting rearranged at random! 😜
That said, I do always try to get her to switch when we go away so it’s different since then we do have to move everything around.
I’ve slept on the same side of my bed for decades, ain’t nobody gonna change that.
I actually did this with my wife for a while when our child didn’t sleep through the night. Whoever is closer to the door in bed is the one whose turn it is to look after the kid.
In a similar vein, I often don’t know which side of the bus I’m going to sit on, but if I go against the one that my emotions are telling me to sit on it ruins my day.

Yes but the window view changes depending on the day and my general headspace
Whoa, do people really have specific sides?!
We just switch it up whenever. I set up the bed a decade ago so there’s tables and chargers and fans and lights on both sides, making both sides comfy!
this is the curse of neural divergent couples across the globe. we will never know the other side of the bed
Oh my, my partner and I are both very different kinds of ND hahaha
I am extremely particular about heaps of things in my life, but The Giant Laying Rectangle is just a huge wonderful place I can flop on any part of and everything is okay for a while. We have a pretty comfy bed, which was cursed with an extremely thick memory foam topper that was gifted to us, turning it into the Ensnaring Comfort Zone of Eternal Sinking.
Glob help me if my items are in the incorrect place on my person when I’m out-and-about, if my shirt is a bit too snug on my chest or neck, or if the clutter on my desk doesn’t taste right to my eyes… but once it’s time for ComfyLand, life is good.
I suppose it depends on the kind of ND to have the bedside preference then lol
I will say, I envy what u have a little LOL
The bed thing is nice but the particularity in other aspects and tics get exhausting sometimes… ah well. Gotta do life with what I’m life’d.
Y’all don’t know the glory of individualized mattresses. We each have our own mattress which feels better for our bodies.
That’s fair and sounds awesome, but we like to cuddle to sleep :3
So do we. They’re in a queen size bed
What kind of chaos is this. This is madness
I’m not even sharing my bed with anyone and I still have my side of the bed.
(It’s so I can splay my left arm out without it hanging off the bed while sleeping on my left side.)
Do you maintain your side if you’re in a hotel?
Yes, unless its a king and then I sleep at all angled because more room to play with.
My wife always picks the side further from the door, be it left or right.
Absolutely.
Are… your friends cats?
Those are what you call swinger? Or switch?
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