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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • That thread is fucking bizarro, and is itself unhinged.

    The CEO seemed fairly reasonable to me (if someone were bashing my company on their blog I’d like a chance for rebuttal), though they did ignore the “please stop emailing me” request.

    It almost feels like everyone involved from the blog post to the thread comments are in the middle of a manic episode. What in the heck is going on?

    If anything I bet this results in a net subscriber gain for Kagi.


  • I’m still on IRC! There’s a raw simplicity to it that I appreciate. You don’t have to use a bloated Electron app to connect to a proprietary service, you can just go straight text on the protocol-level in terminal (if you’re nuts), and the protocol is open and simple enough to understand that you can easily make your own client even if you’re a lazy or mediocre dev.

    So IRC, Lemmy, and I guess Instagram (if that counts)


  • I agree entirely with that sentiment. With this absurd abandonment of the 4a, the constant reports of owners not being able to dial 911, and my 4a randomly deciding one day to go into “emergency mode” and begin calling 911 on its own (while the phone was in my hand, I was just checking email, finger was nowhere near the power button to activate “emergency mode”), and the fact that the feature gap between Android and iOS is becoming narrower and narrower, I am seriously considering going back to iPhone 🙄








  • What’s really cool is seeing actual conversations taking place. I’m actually able to comment here and I’m not immediately being drowned out by being one of ten thousand comments or constant contrarian trolling.

    It has also totally replaced Reddit for me. It reminds me a lot of the old internet and a bit of early Reddit. It’s a really cool experiment, and if it continues as-is I will be thrilled, and if not then I will forever have a sense of pride of what everyone here accomplished. It’s very cool.


  • I am also interested in alternatives as I still use Clockify. But I also need to rant about Clockify: oh my God it is so damn buggy. Whenever I use my VPN on Windows to connect to the office (split routing, so only traffic destined for the office goes over the VPN, not all traffic) Clockify goes in and out of “No internet connection…” for 5-10 seconds. It’s also constantly logging me out, and will sometimes pop up a ton of “new update available” dialogue windows at the same time.

    It also doesn’t have great rounding options. And one of my clients has a tiered billing structure (X dollars up to a certain number of hours, Y dollars for anything over that in the month) which I don’t think I can track in Clockify at all, so I end up doing all of that manually every month.

    I thought about looking for FOSS alternatives but haven’t gotten around to it yet. Also thought about doing my own FOSS thing with a paid hosted / support component, but I don’t have much cross-platform GUI dev experience.



  • Rural ass Appalachia

    haha say no more. I’m from Toronto and have never been to the Appalachians (rural or not), but uh… that area of America is well known. Infamous, even. I’m a bit surprised there’s a discernible gay community there at all. There’s a lot of “parTying” here too (I see what you did there), not my vibe at all. As someone from outside of America looking in (because we are perpetually bombarded with American culture) it seems like the vast majority of the country is anti-intellectual. Which is of course by design, it’s much easier to stage an authoritarian coup if the majority is too dumbed down to think critically and fight it. Plus starve the beast, wedge the class divide further, and you have masses of people fighting each other for crumbs. I suspect your life would be greatly improved if you were able to get the hell out of there (of course that is easier said than done). I can’t imagine it’s going to get much better there anytime soon.

    Wow, imagine waiting 10 years to be with a meth dealer. That man clearly has some serious issues. And the gall to assume that someone would agree to be in a long-term relationship with an expiry date. Plus if things end up going really well, and he doesn’t want to wait for his meth-man anymore and just be fully committed to you, you then have a potentially angry ex who just got out of jail, expecting his guy to still be waiting for him. No matter which way that would go it would be absurdly messy.

    They’d catfish a guy on Grindr, and then pummel the shit out of him.

    What in the fuck? If something like that happened here it would be front page news. But the way you describe it, and the fact that it has a colloquial term, makes it seem like it’s a common occurrence? That’s fucked up to the point that I wouldn’t be surprised if you could apply for asylum in Canada because of it.

    Okay, with all of that in mind I’d probably also be hesitant to accept and integrate friends into my life, and would have a very difficult time dating.


  • You mention the culture where you’re from – might I ask what part of the world you’re from?

    I know this will sound very therapist-y, but why do you think it takes you so long to consider someone a friend? Do you have a very high threshold for what you consider a friend? Are you worried about trusting them?

    Regarding the “they’re not the person I want to spend my life with, so what’s the point” statement: so what if you know you don’t want to spend your life with them? Are you enjoying your time with them at that moment? My friend, I worry that you’re sabotaging your present in search of your future, but what if you’re also sabotaging your future by doing that? We’re monkey-brained humans so we’re constantly pondering all “what ifs” and that can sometimes distract us from what is right in front of us at the time. We constantly spite good in search of perfection, but there usually isn’t such a thing. It’d be like refusing a modest lottery winning because you’re waiting for the big jackpot. Work with what you have, my dude!

    I can appreciate being gay can greatly reduce the dating pool, too. I’m a bi man but most of my relationships have been het; scouring dating apps for gay men I find the vast majority I do not vibe with at all, and most bi men here are poly with het female partners and are looking for threesomes / group play – from my experience, anyway. So I can’t fully appreciate how difficult it is for you to find someone you connect with (culture where you’re from, someone to talk about philosophy and books, etc) but I do have some idea. However, even if they don’t check all your boxes, sometimes “good enough” can be good enough.

    Ah, don’t be so hard on yourself. Most people are not “lookers” anyway. Win them over in other ways!


  • This is a bit of a tangent, but: does it bother you that you’ve never been in love? I suspect if it’s a premise that is popping up in your dreams, and conscious-you has recognised that contrast between dreams and reality, it must.

    I think it’s actually fairly common. You’ve probably had partners you cared very deeply for, but not at an intensity you would consider “in love,” yeah? I don’t think that’s actually a problem and more relationships / marriages are like that than we think. Just two people that care about each other, enjoy each other’s company, get intimate periodically, and are trying to survive this flaming roller coaster of a life we’re all experiencing. That’s why “partner” is an apt term, we’re all just trying to survive (and thrive), not live out a Harlequin romance novel.

    If it works for both of you I wouldn’t fret too much - but I know brains don’t really work that way.



  • Haha I was sort of anticipating that too. I actually do use Signal, and wish more of my friends / family would too, but I don’t have the time nor the energy to try and convince all of them to switch away from Messenger.

    Meta IS evil, but they don’t have my real name and I try to block as much of their tracking as possible. An unfortunate requisite evil right now if I want to easily keep in contact with people.


  • Oh you 😂 you think I should ask the multinational behemoth social media company (that is routinely antagonistic towards the laws of other countries, and rejects feature requests from users for sport) to support WEBP as a shareable format in their messenging app, rather than the very receptive developer of a small app that I directly support through my subscription?

    You have contact info for the team I should be talking to at Facebook?