Oh, and speaking of Charley we were lucky enough to have the Charley Crockett/Leon Bridges show come through, holy crap, I’d seen both of them live before but getting TWO great performers in one night, wow. And that intersection between county and R&B is such pleasant music.

I saw Joshua Ray Walker open for Marcus King and didn’t even like his show but looked him up and found his recorded work to be incredible, THEN he found out he had cancer and that was part of why the live show was weak, nothing to do with his music, and says he is recovering now, but I felt so uncharitable thinking the show sucked when he was dealing with something so awful.

But anyway - I do use streaming but like you find bands other ways, opening acts, radio, sometimes Brooklyn Vegan, that site posts about bands I’ve never heard of, I listen and find stuff I like (and a lot I don’t).

Dishwasher for us, though the powder detergent suggestion absolutely did not work, big degradation in the results for us, went back to the orange pod things. Too many people and almost never eat out, so much cooking.

When it broke I had to fill a sink with hot soapy water (luckily ours is double) and everyone parked their dishes in there, scrubbed but left the water dirty, poured boiling water in occasionally to keep it warm and at the end of the day drain the water, rinse and dry. It worked and the easiest way I could manage but wasteful compared to dishwasher.

I never had one before living with my husband, and always hated washing dishes. Used to buy paper plates and bowls because with a big family and a job it was just too much, nobody wanted to do so many dishes.

Some things a dishwasher does not clean off the dishes. Avocado, eggs. And it doesn’t work if you let them sit too long. But in general it does a good job and saves time and effort.

I tease my husband about this - there was a Barney (the dinosaur) episode where he was showing the kids how to make fruit salad, by mixing together fruit that had been chopped and put into individual bowls, they combined them into one big bowl. I was SO MAD because what the fuck? He showed literally NONE of the work at all. So when husband is grilling, I prep everything and he puts it on the grill and he will joke he made it and I will say sure, like Barney.

But he cleans, man does he clean. I suck at that. I do not feel overwhelmed or overworked. 'Cleaning up after" is a separate job. Sure I do some as I go, not explode the kitchen, but not what I’d call cleaning.

I don’t follow pro sports, sometimes watch the college teams or the international gymnastics amateur competitions. Occasionally a soccer (football) match of our not top division but good local team but not often. Just not into watching men play games usually. But stuff like gymnastics and ice skating is so entertaining to watch. Competitive dance too.

There really isn’t any value past entertaining you, right? If it’s not entertaining you anymore, the value is gone.

Oh I guess I forgot rugby. I do not follow it at all but find it fun to watch. And the college used to put the basketball games on their TV channel with all the timeouts, halftime, everything taken out so it was just st gameplay and I always enjoyed those too. So sometimes I do like watching men play games if they are all action and not too long.

Like others in the responses, we split the labor, not chop veg while doing doggy style or whatever that couple in the picture is doing.

Generally, I cook, my husband cleans up after.

Sometimes I ask my kids to prep or I prep and ask them to cook (if I have to leave the house).

Occasionally I ask someone to open and assemble bagged salad while I cook, that’s about the only “cooking together at the same time in the same space” I can think of off hand.

Young, Dumb, Young Dumb and Broke.

Dude. If you got into college you aren’t dumb, and the good job may help your mood (as my husband says, money doesn’t buy happiness but sure removes a lot of the stresses and lacks that cause sadness.)

My best wishes to you, and also to that weird vegan who is in a similar situation. I can’t say things will get better but will say things CAN get better.

We had a poster with “nutrition per calorie” and collard greens were at the top, I imagine kale is similar.

But you do need calories too!

I think dal with greens in it is probably the most nutritious. Love soup with meat but beans, greens, and rice feels so good and healthy, and has most of what you need for a day.

If the OP is asking for the most calorie dense soup, I would guess cheddar broccoli or cheddar cauliflower.

The unbrawlah. Any violence ends when you get within a meter or so of the umbrella when open. Not bounces off like a forcefield but like a zone of safety.

This is true, Halloween is my favorite because there are no obligations except giving candy to cute kids in costumes. We did have a big party this year but it’s not an expectation like Thanksgiving, and no presents to give or receive, AND grownups can dress up if they want to. Like it’s the fun and creativity part of a holiday with all the other stuff removed. It’s amazing that it is still like that.

Most of my soups are of the Clear Out the Refrigerator variety, so all are inventions in a way, I guess.

But recently made a dal with red lentils, coconut milk, Hong Tsoi, and Berebere and wow it was good.

I don’t put tomatoes in salad or sandwiches (I don’t pick them out if they are in, but don’t affirmatively like them, texture and taste).

Onion and cheese are my non-negotiables in a sandwich. Pickled jalapenos or cucumbers can sub for tomato IMO. Fancy mayo can also be good for adding interest to a sandwich, or compound butter if you prefer.

For a salad, whatever the fuck you want can go in a salad! There is an Italian salad that is just shaved fennel, onion, oranges, and olives. I actually like it but my point is, if that can be a salad anything can. Also - if you like the taste of tomatoes but not the gloppy seed part, you can scoop that out of the tomato slices or just use the outside part and cut out the middle, like you would do with a bell pepper.

How do you feel about sun dried tomatoes?

Never. Once I realize I am dreaming, I can act on my own. I try not to disturb or actively control the dream world though, always want to explore it.

I have 2 at a time, and yes it’s so I can coordinate the scents with perfume.

I’ve been to England and Scotland, and agree with you, this was in the 1980s and their idea of a dangerous neighborhood cracked me right up. London had no areas equivalent to what counted as a dangerous area in my city (though we have made great strides in the US since then in reducing violence, believe it or not. And in my city even more so, we went from so rough to relatively safe).

I don’t think I would have called it free-er though? Safer for sure though, and healthcare so much better.

Are you kidding? 57 is interesting. From Wikipedia:

57 is semiprime, a Blum integer, and a Leyland number.[3]

The split Lie algebra E⁠7+ 1 / 2 ⁠ has a 57-dimensional Heisenberg algebra as its nilradical, and the smallest possible homogeneous space for E8 is also 57-dimensional.

Although fifty-seven is not prime, it is jokingly known as the Grothendieck prime after a legend in which the mathematician Alexander Grothendieck gave it as an example of a prime number, not realizing it was divisible by three. The same error was made by another famous mathematician, Hermann Weyl, in a published article.

This just came up today when I was talking to me husband but Jolie Lade - unconventional beauty, someone who is beautiful without being pretty or handsome.

Si, pero Ingles es mas popular.

I do see posts in Spanish sometimes, and there are all Spanish communities too.

I do see also lots of German on Lemmy.

I don’t usually worry about that. Most people need a little armor between themselves and the world and they will open up slowly as they trust you. A persona to handle daily interactions with others is not necessarily a bad thing.

So I think my line is drawn more at manipulative. I would consider someone too “fake” if they did it on purpose to harm others or help themselves at the expense of others. Someone who would act nice to you while trying to harm you. Most people, in my experience, do not rise to this level of fake, so, like I said, I don’t worry about it.

I can’t say a believe in rules like the half your age plus 7 thing but barely adult and barely minor is not pedophilia, particularly if you were together before aging up to adult, but even if not. The line at 18 is arbitrary, some places that’s 16, and I don’t think 18 is adult like a grownup, that seems to take a few more years. There are also usually laws that say it’s not illegal if you are within some number of years, not a big gap.

That adult/minor split happened to my kid, they were a senior and girlfriend a junior so after graduation we tease them about “dating a high schooler” but they are the same couple as before.

A 3 year gap will just seem smaller and smaller (in that way the half plus 7 thing is true, it’s just stupid as a hard rule). I’m old and 5 years in either direction is about as far as I like to go, because I like guys my age, and that’s what seems “my age” now.