I had no cancer, but know people that did and one thing that came up often is that people tend to distance themselves from them. Not in a mean way, but dealing with special needs is tedious and that is often just a cause to not do certain things. Spending time together (no matter what you end up doing) gives a sense of normalcy and can really push someone to keep fighting. Cancer is a marathon with additional sprints (chemo) on top. Not being alone through all of this is a huge help

I think you already gave yourself the answer in your own case:

Because I give zero crap about what other people think of me.

This applies to people that aren’t in your inner circle. You want HER to be in that circle and suddenly it actually does matter what SHE thinks of you. You have little to lose with people you don’t really care about, but everything to lose with people you do care about. It’s an evil social twist that makes everything so complicated. High self-esteem is just the ability to quickly pull yourself up when you fall and the knowledge that you actually CAN do so. It mitigates the risks of “putting yourself out there”.

It is not quite what I had in mind, but I’ll still poke around, because I see a lot of YAML in my future…

What I was after was having a switch just like the one shown in the screenshot as a card in the Dashboard. All I can add is a button that changes the color. I know I can YAML it, but it still feels weird that an obvious nice solution is not readily available.

I may have oversimplified my statement. Of course an objective description of reality is impossible. A curse on all social sciences and statistics.

My post was more a showerthought…even if the data is incomplete, whatever THAT data implies will also be the stereotype the AI will learn. Misrepresentation of minorities in sample data is absolutely nothing new. But even if the data WAS complete, it would probably still be very biased. I think we often don’t notice structural discrimination and AI would simply reproduce those and confront us with it. In that sense I think it is a very interesting way to get a sort of ‘outside look’ at our own society and that is something that’s very useful.

I wonder if this is because AI is trained on data that ‘is’ and has therefore no concept of how it ‘should be’. Maybe it is an effective mirror of society…