I didn’t use reddit much outside of a few niche communities, it had a repetitive brand of humor and weird dogpiling I didn’t jive with. Here, I find people genuinely want to engage, with moderation suited to a more mature crowd, at least in the communities I hang around.

There are culture shifts between instances and communities, so I try to have a look around before I speak up. Some places you gotta lurk to get a feel, others are a free for all. I stepped on a few toes while I got my footing — just read the sidebars if you want to avoid that.

Browsing by subscribed is the best experience, in my opinion. I see every instance so ALL is a cacophony of back alley circus heretics if I don’t tailor my feed.

Here are some useful tools I picked up in my time here:

Check defederated instances: https://federation-checker.vercel.app/

Fediverse Observer: https://lemmy.fediverse.observer/list

Comparison of Lemmy instances: https://github.com/maltfield/awesome-lemmy-instances

Lemmy apps and discussion (2 years old): https://lemmy.world/post/465785

The Lemmy Rat: https://lemvotes.org/

Wait, THIS is what people are talking about when they say the devs are transphobic?

The dev admitting he said stupid shit in private, supports human rights for everyone, and his personal views should have nothing to do with his work?

Consider the first rule of the Lemmy code of Conduct is:

We are committed to providing a friendly, safe and welcoming environment for all, regardless of level of experience, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, personal appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, age, religion, nationality, or other similar characteristic.

Let’s examine that.

The points on Who’s Line don’t matter, as a rule - but they do matter because they give the rankings at the end of the show. If the points really didn’t matter, we wouldn’t know about them. “Points” wouldn’t be a subject on the show, and yet they come up at the end of every skit. One person even tallied them up. The points mattered to them, a lot.

Anyway, do you have information or were you just itching to make that quip?

As are the rules of most instances.

Edit: Just checked, Lemmy.Today isn’t blocked by any instances.

Last I checked .today was defederated by one instance, don’t know why. I’m open to more info.

The description and the rules are boilerplate, no bigotry or transphobia kind of thing. The admins have been helpful and responsive. I can see why conservatives would join an instance like this, but there’s nothing inherently conservative about it.

When I joined the most-visited local community was conservative, but they’re pretty tame by right wing standards. A couple of the mods posted left-leaning articles to my community, too.

I don’t pay attention to a lot of Lemmy drama unless it crosses my feed, so I could be wrong.

I joined Lemmy.today to see all the instances, they don’t block anyone. I expected chaos, but it’s richer. To be fair, I rarely browse ‘All,’ instead sticking to subscribed coms where the backwards-speaking wanderers from hexbear are more of a feature than a bug.

Now it’s my main account.

PR Edit: I meant no offense to the good people of hexbear, I’m just confused by your ways.

That sucks and I’m sorry. Did you dm the head mod? She’s said her dms are finicky so @ing her would probably get a response.

They’re not supposed to ban by default as far as I know, could have been an overzealous mod or a mistake. I get the same thing online, so I find it fucking infuriating to gender personality traits and tone. As an active poster on that sub I don’t want to see things go that way.

If your goal is accessibility, you’re taking quite a long walk to get there.

In trans-inclusive spaces we use “woman,” in reference to the gender, as opposed to female, which usually designates sex.

Like a nature documentary, for example: “The female meetkat seeks out her pack,” as opposed to “The woman meetkat hollers at the girls.”

I can agree everyone should get to enjoy equal access to the web and still believe censoring user names is nice. There’s gotta be a balance between accessibility and preventing harassment.

Have you asked OP to link the comment in the post text?

How about a transcript for the image? That way user names could stay blocked.

Probably 'cause they commented to the same thread.

I disagree.

Never said anything about morality. I said would be nice.

So you don’t have data.

As you can see, women have trouble keeping men out, too.

I’d like to see your data.

Thank you! I have mental health problems so even negative attention is fulfilling.

AND I don’t think rehashing someone’s minor mistake for public theater is cool without the user names removed. People were shitting all over him when he already got clapped back, so I said something.

Absolutely! I encourage support spaces for everyone. I’m calling out the irony that this user is up and down this thread arguing against the women’s community and spouting female priviledge ideology, while now complaining that men can’t have the same thing… or else people will complain and spout male priviledge ideology.

There are many ways that sexism hurts men, which is why I’m down with support spaces and actively discourage all men bullshit when I see it.

Claiming those spaces doomed from the start, because of people behaving exactly like Tittyfrog here, is bad faith as hell.

Removed by mod

Oh good. I don’t follow this com, another comment tipped me off.

While I do enjoy a little bit of chaos and schadenfreude, it would be nice to block out user names. Call out the mistake, not the person.

Most people here are lovely, but it only takes one match to start a fire. Might as well address some bullshit in these comments since I’m gonna get trolled by incels anyway…

side note: I’m not a mod there.

• The women’s com is trans and non-binary inclusive. Anyone who feels at home there (and is respectful) is welcome.

• It’s not all bitching about men. Looking at the last twenty posts, one was about men and two were related to men. We talk about pads and health and essays and positivity memes and do fun activities on fridays.

• I support men making their own support groups. Although the internet itself often feels like a menfolk support group(to me,) I’m sure there are plenty of things an easy to find, curated space, could offer men who want to be just a little more vulnerable, knowing they would be supported by the mods if any toxic women came in to devalue their opinions and experience.

Depends on the thing, how much money I have, and whether I think it’s worth it for the price they’re charging.

Like when I don’t have time to make bread I just steal it from loblaws.