RiverGhost

So I gather this not about the hobbies themselves being attractive but about what’s attractive for a partner to have as a hobby, or even specifically a male partner? What was the question exactly?

I don’t like it, haven’t really needed it, prefer public transport and have terrible motor skills.

I really enjoyed reading your story. It’s honest about your faults and kind to yourself at the same time. I hope I can find a way to see my own life in a similar way.

I get it, most of my life I’ve had episodes that are more like yours, and my brain just found this and it doesn’t want to let go for a reason. The first couple of months I thought it was the best escape, but once I realized I couldn’t stop, I’ve been despairing. I feel like I’m going mad but more quietly rather than explosively.

Daydreaming. I’m sick of it, but I keep going there.

I don’t see anything mentally unhealthy about what you do, sounds cool.

Our next holiday is Walpurgis Night

You painted these yourself? They look so good! (I haven’t seen the originals).

Same in Sweden unless it’s a high-er end restaurant.

Makes me happy that some people can enjoy being DM because otherwise I wouldn’t be able to play. I’m often too worried about messing with people, and my sense of mischief works better when it’s my own character I’m getting into trouble.

Unprompted, I make a weird “surprise” face that freaks him out for some reason.

People say that the point of activity pub is federation but to me that also means voluntary federation. The possibility of federation. What I dream for it is an option to opt-in instead of opt-out. You should be able to pick “opt-out” if you want a big, connected place. You can have your cake and eat it too by also keeping an account in a big instance of your choice. Most apps let you switch accounts with a tap or two.

We don’t all want to be thrown into the world all the time; complete federation just makes it a safe space for majority populations and marginalizes minorities by default. No, I’m not saying you’re all evil and exclude people on purpose, it just happens. It happens to me too.

Some of you seem to think that marginalized people are too soft and want a safe space, but you fail to notice that largely, you also have a safe space for yourself, it’s just that you probably belong to the default in many areas (I am sighted and most of the internet is made for sighted people).

I grew up in a small forum; people should be able to choose to keep things small, and open in a controlled way. Because that’s the beauty of activity pub, you can still federate with others!

I understand the very practical problem of lack of moderation tools and to me that’s pretty much the only reason to leave, for now. Maybe come back if it gets better?

Logseq has worked best for me and my ADHD so far.

For me, I just get an additional urgency, like, if they block these things more and more I may as well download as much as I can while I still can. As a side effect I’m also passively seeding more.

The website also put me off, I only kept at it because my partner was already using it and it looked solid enough. I even asked “Are you sure this is the logseq? It looks so…idk Marketing?”

But so far I just seem to use it a lot, and the more I use it the more useful I find it, especially after learning how to add tags (didn’t seem particularly obvious in the docs), and after finally getting into the flow of using Syncthing.

Logseq is the only note taking system that has clicked with me, by lowering the mental overhead at the time of adding notes. I just throw it in there without any considerations while still feeling like it’s not going to get lost. Later I may revisit the day’s journal and add tags or connect other information, move a block into its own page, etc.

As someone who has the option to go full remote but does not do well with it, I’d be happy to at least get extra stuff covered. My public transportation is not cheap, and the food situation is a mess.

Jepp, for me it is barely a convenience so I don’t even have an amazon account. I’m not American; seems like it’s pretty important for a lot of people over there, unfortunately.

So this applies to those like me and others, if you can, stop using it. But I also believe these kind of boycotts don’t make much of a dent without some serious organization.

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I’ve been using stremio + torrentio for a while and it’s been the best for me so far. Have tested kodi, jellyfin and others. I don’t pay for a private tracker, but it’s been good enough so far.

I do want to keep a local library instead of streaming, but I’d focus on getting the things I like the most, while this set up helps with discovering. My ADHD in particular may make me suddenly want to watch something that I haven’t prepared.