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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • I have a slight problem when people say stuff like this.

    Yes, I agree that sex shouldn’t at all be the most important thing in a relationship. And at some point many people aren’t able to have sex anymore. And sure, some people aren’t able to have sex to begin with.

    But for most people on the planet, sex is a huge (although obviously usually not the only) component of a relationship and a basic need. So when you can’t have sex, it very severely and significantly limits your dating pool. Pretending it doesn’t is very unhelpful and just not realistic…at least not in the modern, Western world. Other cultures might work differently.



  • Ah well in that case…for me personally, I’m 30 and I’ve never had sex. Since sexual themes are so pervasive in media, sometimes I do feel like I’m missing out. But at the same time, I don’t personally seem to have the ability to feel sexual pleasure, so it is what it is. Some people are also physically disabled in ways that mean they can’t have sex or can’t feel physical pleasure during sex. Sometimes it stinks to feel like such an outlier with the inability to experience something everyone talks about, but it is what it is. There are a lot of other things in this world that are fun and can occupy one’s time.


  • It’s also ok to not really like it. Some people just don’t get that much out of it for various reasons and that’s fine too. Most people have an inmate, biological drive to do it, but not everyone does either. If you really are only 14 as some of the comments say, it’s perfectly normal to want it right now and it’s perfectly normal to not want it. Just be safe about it. You don’t need to jump into something right away just because your peers are doing it.






  • I’m not quite the same demographic as you, but I get it.

    For me, it’s simply not possible to have kids unless I adopted. And that ain’t happening (adoption is a long, arduous, and expensive process and I’m only one person…wouldn’t want to take that alone). I suppose technically my body might physically be able to produce kids…I haven’t tried, but that’s missing the point.

    People sometimes ask me if I want kids and it’s just such a silly question for someone like me. It’s like asking if I had a mega mansion, how would I decorate the 7th bathroom? What I want is irrelevant because that’s not at all in the realm of possibility.

    I don’t know if I would want kids or not. But since it’s not possible, it’s not worth dwelling over.










  • As a socially anxious loner, I didn’t go to prom. Didn’t end up feeling much like I was missing out either. I had been to a few school dances in the past and they always made me very uncomfortable and I didn’t find them fun. I didn’t like how much of a big deal they were made out to be. The one time I had fun around a school dance was when I was hanging out with some people either beforehand or afterwards (can’t remember which) and that part of it was fun. The dance itself wasn’t.


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    Jerboa went though a period time relatively early on in it’s development when it was a buggy, nearly unusable mess. It started out cool, then it shit the bed, and now I guess it’s cool again lol.

    Unfortunately I didn’t wait for it to get good again at the time and I ended up switching to wefwef, which has now been renamed Voyager. Voyager never really went though a buggy period on my end as an Android user.