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Cake day: June 5th, 2024

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  • I watched a documentary about swapped twins in Colombia The Accidental Twins.

    2 sets of identical twins born in 1988, one pair in rural La Paz and one pair in Bogota. One of the La Paz babies wasn’t well and was sent to a hospital in the capital, where the mistake happened.

    They grow up as fraternal twins, because they are not very much alike. 20+ years later they somehow run into each other through friends.
    Imagine someone tells you “Hey, I met this guy who looks exactly like you” and you check out this guys social media and there are pictures of the guy, looking like you with another guy that looks exactly like your twin brother.

    Seriously, such a wild story. Super interesting and heartbreaking at times.






  • Book and Movie “To Kill a Mockingbird” is translated in German to “Wer die Nachtigall Stört” - “To disturb a Nightingale”.

    They were like “something, something with a bird- close enough.”

    This bothered me even before reading the book, but after reading the scene in the backyard where Miss Maudie explains to the kids that you never shoot at a mockingbird because they do no harm to anyone or anything ever, a metaphor the whole book is build on, this translation drives me crazy.

    I wish someone would re-publish it with a more fitting german title.




  • I’m sure there are much more women out there who would appreciate this as you would think.

    Strong, independent and confident women learn in this still very patriarchal world early on to mask an assertive character. The same toxic mechanisms that teach boys they have to be manly and masculine, a provider and protector, teach girls that these characteristics are not acceptable for women. If you are not soft, agreeable and demure, you are not feminine enough, a bossy, feisty, bitch.

    I’m sure there are plenty of women out there who dream of being loved for their strength instead of having to hide it.

    As a feminist, my dream is a world where everyone can just be, without being pressed into expectations their gender dictates.




  • Ask for memories or expieriences. Unless there is something material you really need and can’t get for yourself, these are the things that really count in the end.

    You could ask everyone to share their favorite memory of you in some form. Or bring a photo from something you did together and make an album. Or to plan a Camping trip or a weekend in a mountain cabin for all your extended family or a Fishing trip (or something you like to do) with your buddies. Or ask everyone to gift you an invitation for dinner or bbq at their house, so you have a years worth of evenings with your friends.

    I just waded through decades of family photos for my mom’s 70th, to make an album for her with all her friends and family from youth until now and it was the highlight of the party.








  • You do not owe him anything and neither does your mom. He is behaving like shit towards her so why would he deserve the fruits of both your labour?

    I personally don’t like the entitlement many people think they have to the money of their parents or grandparents.

    There is really no reason why you should give him 50% of the inheritance if you mom doesn’t even want that. And I think her wishes about her inheritance are much more important than his sense of entitlement.

    If he wants to be difficult about it, thats on HIM. It’s not your job to give up anything to keep the peace. If he decides to act like an ass, limit contact. Do you really need this toxic relationship in your life?


  • This sounds quite an unhealthy mindset.

    Do you feel like that all the people who can’t or won’t have children are useless to the world and society? Do you think for example that Dolly Parton or Keanu Reeves (both childless) do not live meaningful lives and don’t leave anything meaningful after they die? That the lives of Nikola Tesla or Edgar Allen Poe were wasted because they didn’t have offspring?

    There are many, many ways you make a difference. Some small, some bigger. Sometimes you don’t even know, you made a difference in sombody elses life. But they don’t stop counting because you didn’t reproduce.

    Wanting to have children is great. Having no purpose in life without them is not.