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  • Couple things…why would your dad be mad at you for not finishing a sculpting degree? Is it because he’d feel like he’d wasted money on your completed schooling or because he really wants you to he a sculptor? If the former, pouring more money into this degree would be the wrong course for him too.

    Remember you’re studying in order to be employed after graduation. What do you think you want to do for work? Are there realistic and achievable jobs in that field?




  • You’ve set yourself up with some serious expectations my friend, and it seems like the mere concept of not meeting those expectations is causing you distress. One solution would be to develop psychological flexibility. It seems like your drive to be perfect has you stuck, because perfection is an ideal and is not achievable. You need to learn to effectively tolerate being imperfect and doing things imperfectly.

    You might try to see a psychotherapist who specializes in treating anxiety disorders like OCD or OCPD. I’m not saying you have either of those, but what you’re experiencing would certainly be in their wheelhouse.



  • OP, I’d urge you to reconsider framing this whole thing as an “extrovert vs introvert” battle. Your boss is demonstrating poor boundaries and disrespectful and inappropriate behavior, and that has nothing to do with whether she’s an I or E on the Myers-Briggs.

    Whether or not you go to HR depends a lot on your company culture. Either way, you need to be documenting specific comments and specific behaviors that are inappropriate first. Every time she asks you an uncomfortable question, especially if it relates to sex, write down what she asked, how you responded (that you declined to answer and asked her to stop asking personal questions), who else was present, and the date/time. Keep this in a personal account, not company. Do NOT go to HR without documentation.

    We don’t know how big your company is, but odds are if she’s a middle manager she’s got people above her already who know she’s a gossip and hate that. If you have any relationship at all with her supervisor, it’s generally viewed as following the chain of command if you bring concerns like this directly to them, as well.