Women share things like this with each other to keep each other safe in most cases. It can seem cruel but if a girl feels like the way you reacted to rejection was bad enough it was a red flag, then they have every right to share that with their social network.

All it takes is some self awareness and acceptance of your own mistakes and they will quickly change their tune though. Humility is very important especially from a mans perspective towards women.

The person telling you no isnt saying you are a shit person, it means they aren’t interested in you. You’ve surely met women you aren’t interested in right? You would be right to tell them no if they asked you out, as the alternative is lieing and misleading, and will cause pain in most cases.

Its okay for someone not to be interested in you. Breath a little, step back and calm down. Its like some version of main character syndrome.

Also, I would consider it a huge red flag if someone had such a negative reaction to being told no when asking someone out. It implies there is a lack of confidence and self assuredness that is a base requirement to be in healthy relationship. We all know women are very careful of red flags and share them with each other as well so this can be self defeating.

If you want to find someone to be with, then you need to figure out how to properly treat someone like an equal, which includes respecting both yourself and them enough to prevent a negative reaction to simply being told you aren’t a persons preference.

Where do you think personal preference comes from? You are born either liking or hating dogs? You need to do some better reading as it appears you replied after reading a quarter of my post.

And yes, someone who reacts like the OP to the situation they are in is a red flag for me. They are childish and selfish, and can’t even consider that the dog is a whole other living being that is involved in this situation.

It shows an incredible lack of compassion or understanding and thats not even considering the attitude they have towards their actual human family members.

I understand wanting to vent but this is not that, this is asking for validation. I would never post something so awful about myself but hey, different perspectives right.

It raises flags because most people who dont like dogs are either afraid or dont get a long with them. If you were afraid you’d say that, but you said you dont like dogs so the reasonable assumption is that you dont like dogs because dogs dont like you.

Its hard to find a comparison but it would be similar to saying “I dont like my mom”. Unless you have a follow up story involving abuse that was not your fault, you are the problem.

That said, there are plenty of people who feel immense fear around dogs or other negative emotions, and while that perspective can be changed over time, its by no means required.

I think this whole post would benefit from the OP adding more background about why they feel so negatively towards dogs, but they seem to want to blame it on dogs or their family rather than think about that.

I understand where you are coming from, but when has “poor me” ever resulted in a benefit. You aren’t a victim here, you just dont like dogs and let your family tell you what to do.

Its not that you dont have the leverage to refuse the request, its that both parties have no leverage unless its accepted.

You are not required to solve your families problems either.

The only reason I disagree is because ive had both perspectives so I know theres a possibility to change if wanted.

I very much disliked my mothers dog for a long time. Didnt want to take care of it or be around it or anything. Thought she was annoying and clingy.

Nowadays I just see the dog different, despite all of her problems getting worse with old age. I feel compassion for her and it makes me happy to see her having fun when I come to see her now.

Its very easy to let an animal just be an inconvenience or a problem, but I think the key is giving the animal a basic level of respect. You wouldnt treat the dog that way if it were a human in that situation.

Maybe they just dont feel the se wa6 about rejection as you. Its far more likely you are assuming I’ll intent than your friends are actively mocking you.

If your friends are really mocking you, they aren’t your friends. At what point will you stand up for yourself and demand to be treated with a basic level of respect?

I never said there couldn’t be reasons to reel bad about it. Im saying that feeling bad about it is ultimately a decision we make, at least as adults.

Let me put it this way, we both go out and attempt to start conversations with women and it ends up going nowhere each time. You might feel extremely dejected, disappointed with yourself, or like you were stupid for thinking it could have worked. The worst feeling I would have is, dang I’m either unlucky tonight or I just dont belong here, but none of that reflects on me personally.

So what if they didnt like me, I dont want everyone to like me, and theres probably good reason we didnt click.

Its your choice to feel bad about it, plenty of people can make mistakes every 15 minutes and forgive themselves just fine.

They are saying its a better chance than doing nothing. If you are going to do nothing then stop bitching about it, since clearly you have given up. You can always change your perspective if you give yourself the chance to though.

Self confidence isnt being perfect in social situations, its understanding everyone has similar experiences and feelings, and so makes the same mistakes with the same frequency.

Mistakes aren’t bad, your reaction to mistakes is what is bad.

Its not humiliating to be told no.

What are the long term risks associated with being a sex worker? Is that any different than being a long term call center worker or secretary, or construction worker?

Do we like samsung all of a sudden?

How’s the network wide ad blocking work, that would solve a big issue with my kids.

Is containers here used in the same context as docker? I’m not familiar with podman.

Vegan isnt for everyone, although as the other poster said there are different ways to vegan. But, people need to allow that not everyone has a body that can handle every kind of diet.

I’m vegan so I just rather like not having to worry about all of the negative side effects of meat and dairy, but there are degrees to things, and a healthy diet could potentially include meat and dairy.

I dont actually know the carnivore diet that well, so I based what I said on the assumption that you would be consuming so much cholesterol containing food that it couldn’t possibly NOT have an adverse affect on your life.

Could I ask if you could be more specific on what caused you to change from vegan? More of a curiosity for me than anything.

I setup popos and EndeavourOS recently, very easy to install. Learning them was about equal IMO, they have different ways of doing things. I liked PopOS initially because its supported by a company that has financial incentive to make sure it runs reliably.

Youll lose weight possibly but thats a great way to end up dead by heart disease at a stupidly young age.

Get like some sort of turbine or like a dozen super loud shitty 90s PC case fans.

Would make fast and the furious more interesting for sure.

Edit: oh shit I just remembered those snowmobile arcade games with the fans, those were the best when I was a kid.