I find that slowing down and just meandering through the things I have to do more slowly and comfortably, actually helps when I feel burned out. Maybe with some music. Feelings of urgency/tension in my body actually sap my energy way too quickly, before I can even get started. So I focus on managing stress preemptively.

This is not applicable to everyone or every situation but it made a big difference for me.

I have memories of different therapy words that my divorced parent and others used to disparage their exes in the 1990s. It’s an awful circle. Nobody can just have normal conflict.

Clarissa-Jan Lim wrote a great article which called it ‘Panopticontent’. That phrase lives in my head forever now.

And not for the better. I think people are actually much less kind to each other when they are aware of being observed. Or worse, deliberately performing for content.

This is a good one.

This is it exactly. There are a lot of great use cases for software, but I’m uncomfortable relying on them, because i know once i start using an app or program in X area of my life or to manage Y problem, it may change or become less useful or start to exploit users in some way. Not everyone doez this, but unfortunately the way the market usually works makes me less and less likely to want to rely on or use software for most things. I want analog, private ways to do things that I control. It sucks, because there are still creative people like op who want to make neat projects. But i’ve really been burned.

Consent first. If you are particularly close and truly trust each other, I think this can be a false binary. But many codependent and possessive people confuse being entitled and controlling with helping. If someone’s a real friend, then this needs to be a conversation where both people share their limits and needs and feelings about this sort of thing. It can be incredibly good to have someone catch you when you truly need it, but some people take advantage or feign concern for the power trip. People need to be able to TALK to their friends.

I bought this for my switch after watching a playthrough and can’t wait to have time to play it myself. The writing is SO GOOD and so beautiful. Belongs on my bookshelf with all the other books. Just poetry, and all kinds of themes and resonances. Top tier

I blocked out the existence of bottle caps

Best: milky way, snickers, twix, good plain chocolate, laffy taffys, nerds Bad: lollipops Genuinely Inedible: candy corn

Ed: forgot butterfingers they are also best.

Yesss. Accepted my health limits and stayed in bed. Ate enough food. Avoided most doomscrolling. Good day.

Bold take. But it’s good to know your preferences. Pets aren’t for everyone. Kind of weird that people tell you to get a dog like it’s a utilitarian solution to something and not like, a living creature.

I think it heavily depends on the other factors in your life and the lives of people you want to get go know : income, health,transportation, how much free time you and other people have. I loved the time I spend in a larger city, but I could not afford nor physically be able to do many of the things that I wanted to. The freedom and constant background of being near many strangers was excellent, and there were lots of possibilities for things to do, but they weren’t as feasible as they seemed. It didn’t work out much of the time because 1. I was broke and had limited good health days 2. Other people were also broke and extremely busy. Even free events come with other monetary costs and planning hiccups. So I think it just depends on where you prefer to live environment-wise and what you want to experience on a day to day, what you want to look at and hear outside. Cities are great if you can afford them. I enjoyed being there a lot. But It’s still logistically hard and often very expensive to socialize no matter where you live.

Agree. This kind of thing only ever seems to come up in regards to to heterosexual dating and it really imo diminishes the entire whole complex humans that are on both sides of the hypothetical interaction. You’re not talking to ~A Woman~* you’re talking to a person, who might or might not like you depending on 8374684 possible factors about the situation or their/your personality.

I think ‘cute’ has developed a second meaning that is more in line with ‘stylish, aesthetically pleasing, clever’ than the ‘infant baby child/object’ sense of the word but I don’t know how to explain the difference. Probably the person’s other actions and intent and tone. Is someone being condescending in general, trying to frame someone as less than? Or is their body language/conversation style more geared toward a genuine expression of ‘i think you’re cool and like the way you look/your outfit or idea is nice’. I’m short and I get both - there is a subtle but very unmistakable difference between good cute and condescending cute. I feel the same way about ‘adorable’. The condescending usage of cute in my personal experience comes most often from women.

This is the hard part. I don’t care about picture quality or specs or anything. But I don’t own a tv or computer right now because it seems there is nothing out there that will be guaranteed to 1. Be compatible with everything I want to use it with and 2. Not make my life suck in sneaky, other ways. I just want things i can disconnect from the internet and plug other things into easily. It’s gotten so hard that it’s just not worth the money for me to own either.

This may not be the case. Doctors don’t always have a say in how their group manages its website or whose job it is to do that, it usually is not the doctor themselves. But mainly - it will not benefit you in any way, ever, to get angry and think of women as bitches when something like this happens. Things like this will always happen in life because life is inherently stressful. So that just sets you up to feel angrier and worse over time, and in a sexist way. I like to listen to music, make some tea, or watch something horror-y to decompress when something shitty happens. That way the feeling doesn’t get directed at anyone, and it doesn’t grow. This person might have been a little rude on the phone but ultimately she’s not the cause of the phone problems at her office or the deadlines you are dealing with, or anything else going on on your life. Sometimes upsetting stuff is no one’s fault.

Blame the large healthcare companies who cause these issues, not the individual people. The doctor and secretary are probably just as frustrated as you are, they’re not allowed to do things in the way that would make most sense or seem helpful to you. That doesn’t make anybody a bitch. It’s structural and likely out of their hands. The medical establishment is not the place to go looking for pleasant human interactions.

That’s so adorable! Hahahahaha.

This is so cool.