I don’t have any data to meaningfully back it up but I will trust my gut and the things I have read from people here.

There is some significant amount of users here that fully / mostly abandoned social media and pretty often are in some kind of a post-reddit-lurker limbo, plus their age is around “I have a partner / family / job / hobbies / things in life I care more about than passionately posting / moderating online”.

My blind shot is that this group would be the growing / fresh part of lemmysphere but they just don’t feel the urge to go for another reddit-type experience as most often than not it was a shit show in the worst case and time consuming endless void sprinkled with really mixed quality content in the best case scenario. Plus you can lurk hard here without even making an account, with quite healthy approach, somewhere around “I don’t care about voting or commenting but let’s just check what is happening”.

What I would like to see evolving here is posts lifespans so they could properly aggregate the answers, responses or votes. Something like “follow this post / inform me about new comments”.

So…

1. You want to learn new things and now you are getting discouraged.

Why you wanted to learn new things? Was it adventure calling, random idea, someone gave you some advice/ideas or you were great in your imagination at them before even starting? Whatever it was, learning new things can be equally great and hard.

2. You seem to be failing at new things.

This is how learning works. Some people fail more and harder, or need more explanations, or more trial and error until the “thing” clicks in their head.

Did I miss anything? There is not enough information but let me shoot in the dark:

• The thing with diving or climbing, was it a one and done thing or do you continue doing it anyhow?

Why I am asking? There is quite a big difference in “I want to learn new things”, “I want to try/test new things”, “I am bored and just wanna do something” and “I am seeking for a (new) lifelong passion/hobby” or even harder “I want to get really good at X”… Depending on what your actual need is, there is plenty of possibilities why the process and effects are not satisfying for you.

• What does “looked bad” mean? Was it a comment from your instructor, or someone from the group gave you a weird look or laughed? Or you had it recorded and you compared your technique to others?

Sounds a little like some form of stage-fright, you can process the instructions and get what the instructor is saying but the problem begins during the “performance” part? Following the instructions and so on? This is quite common, especially during group classes with random people you don’t know. They can be quite chaotic and overstimulating… There is not much you can do to avoid it, but there is a lot you can do to work through it.

• Part about “no pressure”

Maybe a form of group classes is too much and just not for you at the beginning — maybe one on one approach would suit your needs better?

There are so many angles to approach this subject…

For over a decade now, I am fortunate enough to just let my body decide, so I go to sleep whenever I feel like I want to sleep and wake up whenever it happens…

Hours are funny tho, middle point is probably somewhere around 6, sometimes there are times when it is closer to 4, and less often but it happens, around 8.

From my observations and whenever I talk with anyone invested in their routines, it mostly boils down to quality over quantity. Shitty 9 or 10 hours might feel terribly unpleasant and 30 min power nap can do wonders sometimes.

I always believed to be the night owl until I discovered it can switch for me and then I figured out a new option of being a morning lark — I must say, both have some benefits actually but the whole day timetable changes dramatically.

Yup, when I was talking with a few different Microsoft representatives, they just straightforwardly stated that they don’t focus at all on punishing or pushing consequences for “obtained/purchased windows instances via any existing alternative/not supported ways” when it comes to private/home users.

They surely and happily will put the idea of buying a key or official upgrade from their certified resellers locally or online on the table.

It is quite a different story with larger organizations and companies.

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Of course all this info is based on just a few talks during the last decade and with incoming subscription (ugh) model a lot will change, I guess.

Some say they are Nokias 3310 among laptops.

From all the people I knew that ever had them, they still have, very often still use and eventually compare any other / newer laptops with them.

This is vanilla iOS 15.7

This is me.

Sigur Rós — Sæglópur Skream — Exothermic Reaction Caterina Barbieri — Gravity that Binds Thom Yorke — The Eraser (especially the last minute of this song)

That’s why falling in love is a very slippery road — in the emotional sense. If you fall, you will finally hit something, that’s how it works in nature.

Loving someone or building a solid relation based on love with someone is so much harder and not so automatic as falling, it requires committing and communicating — learning a difference is a key to not fall but to be more aware of the process and ones deeper emotions, especially someone else’s.

My guess is that’s why it is easier for so many people to love animals because they don’t fall in love with them, they just feel the love and act accordingly.

— Obviously, all this is a giant oversimplification because this is just a simple comment on the internet, not reality.

…with great form and a lot of style — no room for doubts here.

I dunno… why can’t Lemmy just be its own thing tho? I might’ve been using Reddit wrong or something but Lemmy feels so much better from the start for me.

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At least if there is an interesting topic or a question I don’t have to scroll thru the same jokes or worse — joke trains, yeah sure, the beans happened, maybe I am getting too old to fully connect with the joke, whatever, but at least it is kinda self-contained, my wild guess would be if beans happened on Reddit, all the comments would be BEANS! for a month everywhere…

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From a time perspective — I am really appreciating some amazing posts on Reddit with great histories and comments that I was reading for hours, some great AMAs or even the funny content if it was fresh.

With all this said, overall Reddit was mostly a really specific shit hole for me, yes, shit hole where occasional diamonds occurred but still. I can’t wrap my head around how imaginary internet points can distort even the most basic interactions.