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Cake day: November 19th, 2023

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  • Internet forums, TV shows, movies, and videogames are fun, but they’re not a good substitute for talking to real live humans, especially your peers of the similar age and background.

    You gotta put yourself in some place where you meet the same people consistently to become friends with them.

    It takes on average 8 encounters with conversations to become someone’s friend, so you have to be consistently there over a period of time.

    Go volunteer anywhere, get a menial job anywhere. Especially if it’s something you think you’ll hate, you’ll learn something and at least you’ll be interacting with people.

    You’re in college, and you should be thinking about your future. Summer is no time to waste, and you should be (or should have been) looking into internships in some career field that you’re interested in. Again, don’t turn your nose up at a company or type of work that isn’t the latest and greatest, because you’ll learn something by doing anything. If you have free housing with supportive parents, you can even ask a company to intern for free just to get in to some experience in a field that you’re interested in. Or maybe not interested in. For example, you might like computers, but you might find work on a farm or veterinary clinic and find out that you like animals even more.

    When you do go back to school:

    Does your college have a cafeteria on campus? Spend some time at the same one, every class day, for lunch and/or dinner, (preferably both) and join the same group at the same table. You’ll probably recognize people in some classes you’re taking, and you can use that as an “in” to get conversations started. Or even just overhearing people talking about something you’re interested in, in which case, just join in.







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    3 months ago

    But there were always these avenues that never came to fruition.

    I find fault in that kind of thinking.

    You cannot possibly do everything in real life that you fantasize about wanting to do.

    Our minds are far too active for that.

    Our ever-growing list of desires, particularly in the information age, far outstrips our limited time and resources to fulfill them all.

    e.g. Do I want to climb to the summit of Mt. Everest? Sure! Am I in good physical shape? No Do I have lots of money for travel, equipment, hiring guides, vacation time, etc? No

    Get focused and get something done outside of your routine chores, give yourself a little reward for doing it.

    It may not be the most important or difficult thing on your bucket list, but get things done is an accomplishment and reward in and of itself.

    By the same token, if some desire sits too long on the bucket list, and/or is completely out of reach, stop wasting mental energy on it, i.e. strike it off, you should just realize it’s not that important to you after all, and move on.

    e.g. Is climbing Mt. Everest that important to me? I guess not Let me pull a book of my un-read pile and read that. Oh that one’s been sitting there a while and I’m never going to get to it, I guess I should donate it to a little library or a big library, while I read this one that I think I’ll like better