• Captain Aggravated@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    The majority of women on this earth will permanently lose her ability to like or respect a man if she ever perceives him as being too feminine. The definition of “being too feminine” varies from woman to woman but often includes crying, expressing any emotion other than anger, wearing makeup, driving a sedan, any number of fashion things, having or liking cats, liking or caring for children, so and and so forth.

    I remember back in high school or college, around the time the first three Pirates of the Caribbean movies were coming out and Johnny Depp was America’s heart throb, I knew exactly two girls who specifically said they liked the eye shadow he was wearing. Relatedly, I’ve worn my hair long a few times in my life, and those specific two girls liked playing with my hair. Most of the rest of the women I’ve ever been with didn’t really want much to do with it.

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      2 months ago

      I’ve worn my hair long a few times in my life, and those specific two girls liked playing with my hair. Most of the rest of the women I’ve ever been with didn’t really want much to do with it.

      i think it depends on how you wear the hair, and how you carry yourself, there are a handful of masculine long hair styles that just don’t work outside of a masculine aesthetic i think. Or at least have a perceptibly different aesthetic due to the person they’re attached to.

      This is a lot less common among younger generations though. People care a lot less.

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        2 months ago

        I brush my hair straight to get the tangles out then tie it back in a simple pony tail at the base of my skull. I don’t really style it much myself.

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          2 months ago

          i think it’s a little bit more involved than the literal hair style personally, some people just look good without hair, some people just look good with hair.

          I for example just look better with long hair. Something about the way my face is structured, and the natural position that my hair sits in, just makes for a better look that way.

          Probably subjective, but i think that’s the only thing that matters lol. I think as long as you manage to find that style, and carry it well, other people will generally follow.

    • Lumelore (She/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      2 months ago

      Interesting, I’m wondering if that’s a generational difference or if it’s because I tend to hang around other queer people since I haven’t really experienced that with women.

      I’m a trans woman and I wasn’t out when I was in highschool but I did present myself as a somewhat feminine man then and there were quite a few guys that I upset by simply existing, however women were more interested in talking to me after I started presenting more femininely. Although I think this is because they thought I was a gay man, and thus felt safer around me.